I Have a Girlfriend and Kids

Hello, my name is --------, and I have decided to embrace Islam as my way of life..
However my girlfriend and soon to be wife has embraced Christianity for her way life and for our two children..
I have no problem with her faith, but she always wants me to go to church with them, and sometimes I do to keep the peace. But I'm not sure how I should handle this request after I have become a Muslim and have embraced Islam..
Can I still attend her church services from time to time? How do I handle this dilemma..
She seems to be supportive of my decision to embrace Islam, but Like many others including myself. Until I did my own research and discovered this magnificent way of life. She's a bit apprehensive..
Please guide me in the ways of Islam, so as not to hurt our family relationship..
Thank you..

Praise be to Allah.
First of all, you should hasten to enter Islam, which is easy to do.
Secondly, if this lady becomes a Muslim or one of the People of the Book (Christian or Jewish), repents to Allah for the forbidden relationship, and remains chaste, then it is permissible for you to marry her.
Thirdly, the children who were born to this woman outside of marriage are not your children; they cannot take your name and must take her name. However, this should not prevent you from treating them kindly, taking care of them and spending on them. In the future, you should try to call them and their mother to Islam.
Fourthly, going to her church and attending rituals of kufr is not advisable, because of the possible negative consequences. We advise you not to do that, but this should not be any obstacle to your entering Islam. If you were to say that it is a choice of either embracing Islam and going to the church with her, or not embracing Islam at all, we would definitely tell you to embrace Islam. But we would like you to think of the meaning of these two soorahs of the Qur'an (interpretation of the meanings):
"Say: He is Allah, (the) One.
Allah-us-Samad (The Self-Sufficient Master, Whom all creatures need; He neither eats nor drinks).
He begets not nor was He begotten;
And there is none co-equal or comparable unto Him."
[al-Ikhlaas 112:1-4]
"Say: O Kaafiroon (disbelievers in Allah, in His Oneness, etc.)!
I worship not that which you worship,
Nor will you worship that which I worship.
And I shall not worship that which you are worshipping.
Nor will you worship that which I worship
To you be your religion, and to me my religion (Islamic monotheism)."
[al-Kaafiroon 109:1-6]
Finally I advise you, a wise man who is striving to make the right choice, hasten to enter Islam and practice it: Allah will help you to overcome all obstacles. May Allah take care of you
From Islam Q&A

A Girl Wants to Embrace Islam

I go to a 95% Muslim school and I have been talking to them, some girls, about Islam and I really understand the Islam religion and the ways of life. I want to know all I can find out about Islam but there is one problem . My mom .
I want to convert but I'm not sure if I know all I need to know now to convert. What should I learn more about?

Praise be to Allah.

This is a great effort that you have undertaken, and you are to be congratulated for the results of your research and your questioning of the Muslim girls.
What you need to know are the basic matters which are easy to learn, such as the meaning of the Shahaadatayn (the two statements of faith) - which are the key to Islam - and the six pillars of faith (eemaan) and the five pillars of Islam. You should also learn how to pray so that you can begin to pray after you pronounce the Shahaadatayn. You can find a lot of information on these matters on this website, in the section on 'aqeedah (correct belief), under the headings "Issues relevant to accepting and embracing Islam" and "Basic tenets of Islam for non-Muslims."
As regards your mother, we hope that she will not try to stop you becoming a Muslim. Treat her with kindness and tell her about Islam in beautiful words - maybe she will embrace Islam too. If you are afraid that she may turn against you if she knows about your Islam, then you do not have to tell her about it. Embrace Islam in secret, and do as much as you can of your duties towards Allah. Allah will never forsake you; in fact, He will help you and support you, if you turn to Him. We ask Allaah to help you follow the truth and adhere to it. We are prepared to offer any help that we can. Peace be upon those who follow true guidance. And Allah knows best.
From Islam Q&A

Nervous about Going Mosque

I am very much interested in becoming a righteous Muslim women and God willing I will be soon declaring my faith. However I am very concerned about the fact that I have never stepped foot inside of a mosque and feel very self-conscious about attending since I am not familiar with the customs. How would you suggest I go about attending service for the first time? How important is it that a Muslim goes to mosque? I am from Brooklyn, NY would you suggest a mosque with a women group that I could attend? Thank You,

Praise be to Allah.
Praise and thanks be to Allah for His help and the blessing of your being convinced of Islam and eager to enter this religion. This would not have happened if Allah had not willed it, for He guides whom He wills to the Straight Path. We are overjoyed to learn that you will soon enter Islam and become our sister in faith. You do not have to go to a mosque in order to enter Islam. It is enough for you to pronounce the Shahaadatayn (declaration of faith) and begin to practice the rituals of Islam straight away. On this web-site you will find a number of questions and answers which will explain how to enter Islam and what the new Muslim should do. If you can go to a reliable Islamic centre to register your Islam and get to know some Muslim sisters, this is good. After you become Muslim, there is nothing wrong with going to the mosque to spend time there, so long as you adhere to the conditions required by sharee’ah, such as not being on your period. Do not worry about not knowing what goes on in the mosque; in sha Allah you will find some Muslim sisters who can explain to you how worship is conducted in the mosque. We also want to tell you that a woman’s prayer and worship in her own home are better than her prayer in the mosque, as our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) told us. We will do all we can to let you know the name of an Islamic centre or mosque in your city as soon as possible. We welcome you warmly to the oasis of Islam.
From Islam Q&A

Non-Muslims Monotheists

What do Muslims believe happens in the hereafter to Non-Muslims that believe in one God?

Praise be to Allaah.
Your interest in studying Islam is something great, which we appreciate. Everyone should seek the truth wherever it may be, and follow it even if it differs from the way of their forefathers or the religion of the country or society in which they live, because salvation from the Fire of Hell on the Day of Judgment is more important than anything else.
One of the most important things that the would-be student of Islam should do is to consult authentic Islamic references, in order to understand the reality of this religion. For example, one should consult translations of the meanings of the Qur’an and the ahaadeeth (sayings) of the Prophet of Islam, Muhammad (peace be upon him), ensuring that the translations are sound. But reading books written by non-Muslims, or by Muslims who do not really understand or practice their religion, is not a scholarly approach or a sound method of finding out the truth.
Returning to your question, what do Muslims believe will happen to atheists? Or for that matter, what about monotheists who are not Muslim? Will their fate be Hell in the Hereafter? The answer is that Allaah has clearly created everything, sent His blessings on His creation, and sent Messengers and Revealed Books to tell them that whoever believes in and worships Him alone, not associating any partner with Him, will enter Paradise, and whoever denies Him, or worships something else besides Him, or takes other gods instead of Him, or says that He has a wife or son, or that the angels are His daughters, or follows a law other than that which He revealed to judge between people in truth, or turns away from His religion, will be doomed in the Hereafter to the eternal punishment of Hell. This is exact justice, and this will be the fate deserved by the one who did not give his Creator His due.
Worshipping Allaah, obeying His commands and adhering to His prohibitions are basic matters, but they form the essence of the relationship between the Creator and His creation. Allah says:
"And I (Allaah) created not the jinns and men except they should worship Me (alone)." [al-Dhaariyaat 51:56]
Messengers were sent with one message: to tell their people "Worship Allaah, for you have no god besides Him." Hence we may understand just how far short the person falls who believes that Allaah is one and does not associate anything with Him, but does not worship or obey Him, but rebels against Him and fails to follow His religion or Law, or the Revelation and Messengers which He sent for him and people like him. Does such a person deserve to enter Paradise or Hell?
This is the person who says: "I believe that there is One God Who created the universe, but I am going to stop there; I will not pray to Him or fast or perform Hajj or pay zakaat as He commanded. I am not going to carry out any duties towards Him; I will follow my own desires and do whatever I want, whether He permitted it or forbade it." Can such a person attain salvation on the Day of Judgement?
Allaah sent Messengers to every nation, that they might worship Him and shun false deities. The last nation is this ummah, and the last Messenger is Muhammad (peace be upon him). Allaah sent him for the whole of mankind, the entire world, and thus abrogated the previous laws and made this religion the best and most perfect and complete. Hence it is obligatory for everyone to enter this religion, for Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And whoever seeks a religion other than Islaam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers." [Aal ‘Imraan 3:85]
On this basis, the fate of one who says "I believe in the idea of One God, but I do not want to be a Muslim, or I do not want to follow the last Revelation or the last Prophet," is clear.
Furthermore, the fate of an atheist, who rejects even the belief in God, is even clearer and more evident.
Finally, I hope that the matter is now clearer to you. I ask Allaah to guide us all to the truth and help us to follow it, for He is the best Supporter and Helper.
From Islam Q&A

Believing Without Converting

Non-muslim dies, and I know him/her. As far as I know this person believed and accepted Islam, but died before they could convert. What does Islam say about such a person, is he/she forgiven by Allah or still considered as one of the "kaffar"?

Praise be to Allaah.
If a person does not pronounce the Shahaadatayn and enter Islam, we cannot say that he is a Muslim, even if he admired Islam and recognized that it the best religion, a great religion, and so on. Abu Taalib, the uncle of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) died a kaafir, and Allaah forbade His Prophet to pray for forgiveness for him, even though he used to defend the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said in his poems:
"I do know that the religion of Muhammad is better than all other religions of mankind;
were it not for fear of blame or slander, you would find me accepting it completely." If a person accepts Islam out of conviction, and begins to practice it, then he is a Muslim, even if he does not register his Islam officially, or go to a court or Islamic centre to obtain documentation, or announce it to others. If such a person dies, then we hope for Paradise for him and pray for mercy for him.
And Allaah is the One Who sees all that His slaves do.
From Islam Q&A

Cut off by her Non-Muslim Mother

My mother-who is non Muslim- has cut off ties with me for 13 years If I write she doesn't respond and she disconnected her telephone. Although I know her present address I fear that if I go there she'll change her residence as she had done before. She has a history of mental illness & has been hospitalized several times. When she is at home she prefers to be "left alone". Whenever someone speaks well of me -to try to reconcile us - she accuses them of taking sides with me, gets angry and criticizes the person. Since she has voiced objection to Islam on different occasions' I feel that it is really my reversion to Islam which disturbs her. Please advice me ! may Allah reward you

Praise be to Allaah.
The sincere believer knows that one of the things that Allaah does is to test His slaves by means of various kinds of trials in order to demonstrate their patience and virtue, and to raise their status, to increase their reward for their steadfastness, and to test their sincerity in following the truth. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And surely, We shall try you till We test those who strive hard (for the Cause of Allaah) and the patient ones, and We shall test your facts (i.e., the one who is a liar, and the one who is truthful).” [Muhammad 47:31]. Among the different types of test are the various means which the mushrikeen may employ to try to make a believer give up his faith, so they may apply psychological pressure to annoy him and make him go back to kufr. Allaah, may He be glorified, has mentioned this in His Book and has pointed out how we should respond. He tells us (interpretation of the meaning): “You shall certainly be tried and tested in your wealth and properties and in your personal selves, and you shall certainly hear much that will grieve you from those who received the Scripture before you (Jews and Christians) and from those who ascribe partners to Allaah, but if you persevere patiently, and become al-muttaqoon (pious), then verily, that will be a determining factor in all affairs, and that is from the great matters, [which you must hold on to with all your efforts]” [Aal ‘Imraan 3:186]. If what is being said or done by others is causing too much psychological pain, then how much worse must it be when it is done by the closest of people, one with whom you share ties of flesh and blood, the mother who gave birth to you? “The hurt caused by those who are related to you is more bitter and painful/ to the soul than the blow of a sword.” [poetry] But when the believer is exposed to the most painful attacks from the closest of people to him, he does not give in or retreat; he follows the Qur’aan in his dealings with the mother who is hurting him or cutting him off and turning away from him. This is illustrated in the following story: Mus’ab ibn Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqaas reported from his father… the mother of Sa’d swore that she would not speak to him, or eat or drink, until he renounced his religion (Islam) and became a kaafir. She said, “You claim that Allaah tells you to honour and respect your parents. I am your mother and I am telling you to do this.” She stayed like that for three days, until she fell unconscious from exhaustion. One of her sons, whose name was ‘Umaarah, got up and gave her water to drink, and she began to pray against Sa’d. Then Allaah revealed the following aayah of the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning): “And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents… But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me other of which you have no knowledge, the obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly…” [Luqmaan 31:14, 15]. (Reported by Muslim, 4432). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also suffered rejection at the hands of some of those who were most closely related to him, such as his paternal uncle Abu Lahab, but this did not stop him from spreading the message and conveying the religion, despite the harshness of the opposition. Rabee’ah ibn ‘Abbaad al-Dayli, who later became Muslim, said: “I saw the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) with my own eyes in the marketplace of Dhoo’l-Majaaz, saying, ‘O people, say Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah and you will prosper.’ He was going through the alleyways of the market, and the people were gathering around him. I did not see anyone saying anything, and he did not stop saying, ‘O people, say Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah and you will prosper.’ Behind him there was a man with a squint and a handsome face, and his hair in two braids, saying, ‘He is a Sabian and a liar.’ I asked, ‘Who is this?’ They said, ‘Muhammad ibn ‘Abd-Allaah, who is saying that he is a Prophet.’ I asked, ‘Who is this who is denouncing him?’ They said, ‘His paternal uncle Abu Lahab.’” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 15448). So, my sister, you should hold fast to your religion and honour and respect your mother as Allaah commands. If she turns away from you and rejects your kind treatment, there will be no sin on you, even if this hurts you, because you are following the true guidance. Bear this with patient perseverance, for you are on the right path of truth. And Allaah is the Source of strength
From Islam Q&A

Circumcision and Choosing a Name

Assalam alaikum
I am a young man from Denmark, who for some time have been interested in Islam. I have now reached a point where I am absolutely sure that I want to become a Muslim. My questions are as follows: - Since I would have to be circumcised to become Muslim (this I gladly accepts) I would like to know how this comes about. Is it done by a doctor, an imam or by oneself? - I feel changing my name as I become Muslim is a truly happy occasion. But I would like to know which of the following names you find to be most suitable as my new first name? ¤ Qasim ¤ Aasim ¤ Taymullah ¤ or Sayyid I will be very grateful indeed to get a response to my letter. Sincerely

All Praise is due to Allah,
All Praise is due to Allah for having guided you to this path which you would not have been guided to without Allaah’s Guidance. Your interest in embracing our religion is very pleasant news for us tonight. We pray to Allaah that you successfully embrace Islam and become steadfast on it. As for your first question, if circumcision does not cause you harm, you can have it performed by a surgeon who’s experience and skill you trust. If it would cause you harm, then you don’t have to do it and that will not adversely affect your Islam, InShaa'a Allah (Allah Willing). As for changing your name, note that the most beloved names to Allah are: Abdul-llah (The Slave/worshipper of Allah) and Abdul-Rahman (The Slave/worshipper of the Most Merciful – one of the names of Allah). This came to us in the authentic Hadeeth (sayings) of the Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon Him) which was narrated by Muslim (hadeeth number 3975). If you want us to choose one of the names that you have listed, you can use Aasim which means: protector – preserver – defender – guarder. We pray to Allaah for you to have a Blissful and Pleasant life in the shadow of the Great Islam.
From Islam Q&A

I Do not Speak Arabic

I have read the many pages of your web site that instructs a non-believer. I believe that there is only Allah (one God). I believe that Muhammed is the seal of the prophets. History bears this out. My question is: How do I declare this (shahadah) if I do not speak arabic? How do I perform the five daily prayers (salah) without understanding arabic? Finally would I have to change my name?

To the dear inquirer:
I welcome you with a warm greeting. I was besieged with great joy as I discovered your question while browsing through the ten questions which arrived during the past hour today, and it was the dearest question for me. This fact is not surprising, as how could our hearts not open to a wise man who has discovered the truth and has acknowledged and confirmed it for himself--one who wishes to embrace Islam and asks about the next steps? In reality, everything that poses a problem for you is actually an easy matter, and can be solved simply, God willing (in shaa' Allaah), so let's take them one by one:

First: all that is required of you to embrace this religion right now as you are reading these lines is to pronounce al-shahaadatain, or the two confirmations and attestations of faith, to the best of your ability. Perfect pronunciation of the Arabic letters is not required, and the following is a transliteration of the phrases with English letters to help you: ash-hadu an laa ilaahah illallaah (I bear witness and attest that there is no god worthy of worship but the One God Allaah) ash-hadu anna muhammad-ar-rasool ullaah (I bear witness and attest that Muhammad is the messenger of Allaah) After pronouncing them, you should promptly hasten to take a shower to purify yourself and prepare to start performing your regular prayers which will be an obligation as soon as you have declared your belief.

Second: If you have not yet learned the manner and characteristics of performing the prayer (i.e. at least the movements and positions), appended to this message is a description from which you can learn. What is requried from you for the time being is to say in the beginning of the prayer and between each movement between positions "Allaahu ak-bar" (a glorification of Allaah). While standing, bowing, prostrating, and sitting, you should say "subhaan allaah wal-hamdu lillaah wa-laa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar." (Glory be to Allaah, and praise and thanks be to Allaah, and there is no god but Allaah, and Allaah is the most Exalted and Great.) Then conclude the prayer by turning your head to the right then left, each time saying "as-salaamu alaikum." This way of performing salaat is permissible for you until you can learn and memorize what should be said in each movement and position of the salaat.

Third: You are not required to change your name, and in fact, a number of scholars among the forefathers and modern-day Muslims have indicated declared that your name is in fact the name of one of the prophets! I ask Allah to aid you and ease your affairs, and to bestow upon you the blessing of Islam and perseverance in adhering to it. We are ready and willing to assist in explaining or helping to solve any problem or difficulty you may face, and to provide support and aid in any way possible.
From Islam Q&A

He married a Hindu woman to convert her to Islam



Assalamualeikum rahmatullah Dear Shykh, i am new convert to islam from nepal, my question is, i married to hindu girl according to hindu custom hoping her to convert to islam, later she converted and we did a marriage contract in mosque (without her waiting period after intercourse) later we knew that she was not pregnat, so please advise me do we have to renew marriage contract and is previous marriage considered zina? if so what should i do please kindly advise me

Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad , is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we thank and praise Allaah Who guided both of you to Islam and we ask Him to make you firm and steadfast on His Religion until the day you meet Him. We advise you to seek beneficial knowledge, perform good deeds and attend Islamic circles and avoid bad company.
What we understand from your question is that you first married this girl before she embraced Islam, and that you had an intimate relationship with her as a husband, and then you conducted another marriage contract with her in the mosque after she embraced Islam but before she observed her waiting period to make sure that she was not pregnant. If this is the case, then our answer to your question is as follows:
Firstly: it is not Islamically permissible for a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim woman who is not from the People of the Book (Jews and Christians). Allaah Says (what means): {And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe.} [Quran 2:221] Therefore, your first marriage to her is void. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 87895.
Besides, your intimate relationship [sexual intercourse] with her was unlawful; however, if you did not know that this was forbidden, then you are not sinful, but the marriage is void as we have already mentioned.
Secondly: as to your marriage to her in the mosque before she observed her waiting period in order to make sure that she was not pregnant, there is a difference of opinion among the scholars about its ruling. Some of them are of the view that such a marriage is void while some others are of the opinion that it is valid. According to this last opinion, the marriage is considered valid and you do not have to renew your marriage contract again.
This answer is given to you according to what we understand from your question. If the matter is not as so, then please clarify it to us so that we can issue you with an appropriate Fatwa.
Allaah Knows best.

She loves a Hindu man who refuses to embrace Islam


Question
Assalamu Alaikum! Would like to introduce me as a strong believer in Islam. However, I'm in love with a non-muslim guy(hindu), in which he loved me a lot and me too doing the same. Since I love him, I want him to come out of his ignorance and soon embrace to Islam and believe the only Almighty is Allah and Allah only. I dont wish to marry him as he is now since I know it is haraam(I was having a great hope on Allah, that he'll soon make him realize that the only religion is Islam and he will embrace to the same). From the day 1 when I started loving him, i'm praying a lot that Allah should let him know that there is only one God, that is Allah and none other. Whatever I ask Allah, I ask this as well. My concern is why couldn't he understand that only Allah is there. I dont want him to continue as other non-muslims who is under ignorance. I want him to go towards Jannah(Insha Allah) and his family members as well. Due to his ignorance, he is believing their religion and as I'm asking Allah to realize the fact, I dont know how to explain him that the only God is Allah. Please help me on this. He is a very much understandable person, but this one thing alone he is still under ignorance which is an absolute wrong thing. I would like to marry him as an Islamic person(Hope Allah will make it true, insha allah). Request you all to make dua for us and help me understand what can be done further. Sorry if i'm wrong somewhere...

Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad , is His slave and Messenger.

First of all, you should know, dear sister, that it is forbidden for a Muslim woman to establish a friendly relationship with a non-Mahram man even if he is a Muslim, let alone if he is not a Muslim as we clarified in Fatwa 81356.

Therefore, if you have a friendly relationship with this non-Muslim, you are obliged to immediately cut it and repent to Allaah.

If you are in contact with him for the sake of Da’wah, then it is a man who should call him to Islam as he is more capable of calling him to Islam than a woman and you will be far from the steps of the devil who may drug you to unpleasant consequences, especially that you are attached to him and he is attached to you; so you should fear Allaah.

As regards why he is not yet guided, then guidance is in the Hands of Allaah; He guides whomever He wishes out of His Generosity, and He misguides whomever He wishes out of His Justice. When Allaah knows that someone is ready to accept guidance and that there is good in him, He guides him, as Allaah Says (what means): {Had Allaah known any good in them, He would have made them hear.}[Quran 8:23] As-Sa’di, [who is one of the interpreters of the Quran] said: “This is evidence that Allaah does not prevent faith and good except from the one in whom there is no good and who is not virtuous (in His Sight) and who would not respond [i.e. who would not accept guidance].”

Indeed, you find some people even if they see in front of him the unshakable mountains fight each other, and see great sings and evidence come to him, he would persist on disbelief because his heart is blind and because of his stubbornness. Indeed, Allaah Says about such people (what means): {And even if We had sent down to them the angels [with the message] and the dead spoke to them [of it] and We gathered together every [created] thing in front of them, they would not believe unless Allaah should will. But most of them, [of that], are ignorant.}[Quran 6:111] Allaah also Says (what means): {… and if they should see every sign, they will not believe in it.}[Quran 7:146]; it means no matter how much of the signs, evidence, proofs they see, they would not believe in them; Allaah Says as well (what means): {And [even] if We opened to them a gate from the heaven and they continued therein to ascend. They would say, “Our eyes have only been dazzled. Rather, we are a people affected by magic.”}[Quran 15:14-15]

Therefore, it might be that the polytheist to whom you are attached is of this kind; we seek refuge in Allaah from this.

Hence, you should fear Allaah and not be attached to him as there are many Muslims who are better than him in religion, moral conduct and beauty. You should remember the Saying of Allaah (which means): {And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite ضيف to the Fire, but Allaah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission.}[Quran 221]

However, it is permissible for a male relative of yours or any other man to call him to Islam as we previously mentioned but you should be careful and not hasten to marry him if he announces his becoming a Muslim, as he might do so for the purpose of marrying you and not due to having a desire to be a Muslim.

For more benefit on the prohibition of a Muslim woman's marriage to a non-Muslim man, please refer to Fatwa 84265, and to Fataawa 21363 and 84345 on how to call non-Muslims to Islam especially Hindus, and to Fataawa 81979, 86091 and 88906 on an introduction to Islam and that Islam is the true religion.

Allaah Knows best.

Husband converted to Islam... wife still non-Muslim

Question
assalamualaikum shaikh one of my friend his name was kiran riverted to islam now his name is Yaseen alhadulillah he is married (as per hindu method) before reverting now he is doing dawa with her wife but yet she is not accepted. in this condition can he servive life with her? can he maintain the sexual relations with her? in case if she is not accepted the islam does this relation comes under zina? plz ans me as early as possible jazakallah..

Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.



His wife is either a non-believing woman from the People of the Book or a non-Muslim woman from other fiaths.

If she is from the People of the Book, then their marriage continues as it is [i.e., is still valid]. Ibn Qudaamah said in his book entitled Al-Mughni, “If the husband of a woman from the People of the Book becomes a Muslim before the consummation of the marriage or after it, or they both become Muslim at the same time, then the marriage continues as it is. This is [still valid] whether her husband is a non-believer from the People of the Book or from other non-believing faith. This is so because a Muslim may initiate marriage with a woman from the People of the Book, so keeping this marriage valid is more appropriate.”

However, if she is a non-believer but not from the People of the Book, then she is not lawful for him as Allaah The Almighty Says (speaking about the non-believing women from Quraysh other than the People of the Book)(what means): {And hold not to marriage bonds with disbelieving women.} [Quran 60:10]

Therefore, [in this case] he is not permitted to have sexual intercourse with her, and if he does so, it is pure Zina (fornication or adultery). However, if she becomes a Muslim during her waiting period, then she returns to him [she stays as his wife] by the first marriage.

Finally, we advise him to exert the utmost efforts in calling her to Islam and encouraging her to embrace it. He should supplicate Allaah The Almighty for her as Allaah may make him a reason for her embracing Islam, and in this manner, he will gain the good of this worldly life and that of the Hereafter. The Prophet said: "If Allaah guides one single man (to Islam) by your efforts, that will be better for you than possessing an abundant number of red camels (a very expensive breed of camels which is considered as the most valuable property in the sight of the Arabs)." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]

Allaah Knows best.

HOW TO INTERACT WITH NON-MUSLIM PARENTS

By Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan

Source: Salafitalk.net

Shaykh Al-Fawzan (may Allaah preserve him) was asked: [Q33]: I accepted Islaam three months ago, and I have two disbelieving parents. How do I interact with them? And am I supposed to hate them in an all-inclusive way?

He replied: [A33]: Interacting (with them) is to be done as Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic, has said: “You do not find any people who believe in Allaah and the Last Day loving those who have opposed Allaah and His Messenger, even their own fathers.”

So you are to hate them for Allaah’s sake, the Mighty and Majestic. And as for kindness, being dutiful and kind to them, then Allaah the Exalted has said: “And if they strive to make you ascribe partners with Me, that which you have no knowledge of, then do not obey them, and accompany them in the worldly life with kindness.”

This is from the angle of repaying kindness. So the parent has the right to kindness and good treatment. However, as for loving them in one’s heart, then do not ever love the disbelievers. When it became clear to Ibraaheem that his father was an enemy to Allaah, he freed himself of him.

[Source: Duroos fee Nawaaqidh al-Islaam, p.202-203] (p.90-91 of the English translation)

And he said, may Allaah preserve him, in a discussion of the permissible ways of interaction with disbelievers: [4]: It is permissible for us to respond kindly to any kindness that they have shown to us. Allaah, the Exalted One, has said: “Allaah does not forbid you from being kind and just with those who have not fought you over the Religion, nor have they expelled you from your homelands. Verily, Allaah loves those who are just.”

So if they have done something nice for the Muslims, then the Muslims may respond with something nice and compensate them. This is not from the angle of loving them, rather it is only from the angle of compensation.

Furthermore, it is obligatory to be kind to one’s disbelieving parents, without loving them. Allaah, the Exalted One, has said: “And We have admonished mankind regarding his parents. His mother carried him (in the womb) through hardships upon hardships, and then he was weaned after two years. (And We have admonished him) to be grateful to Me, and to his parents. To Me is the Return.”

“And if they strive to make you ascribe partners with Me, that which you have no knowledge of, then do not obey them, and accompany them in the worldly life with kindness. And follow the path of those who repent to Me.”

So it is obligatory to be kind to one’s parents, even if they are disbelievers, however one may not love them in his heart: “You do not find any people who believe in Allaah and the Last Day loving those who have opposed Allaah and His Messenger, even their own fathers or children.”

Loving them is one thing, and good dealings with them is another.

Umm Salamah, the daughter of Aboo Bakr, who was a polytheist, came seeking some money. So Asmaa’ went to the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) and said to him, “Verily my mother has come and she is inclined, meaning inclined to re-establish ties, so should I establish ties with her?” He replied, “Yes, keep ties with your mother.”

Thus, worldly affairs, business dealings, compensations, and exchanges (of good treatment) between Muslims and disbelievers in beneficial affairs that do not affect the Religion are permissible. Similarly, diplomatic representation between embassies is also not harmful. The polytheists used to send messengers to the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) to negotiate with him. They would enter upon him while he was in the masjid and negotiate with him. These kinds of affairs are not things that show loyalty, rather they are merely permissible affairs of benefit between the Muslims and the disbelievers.

So it is binding that we make a distinction between this and that. Some people mix up the issues that are permissible with those that are impermissible. From them are those who say, “It is permissible to love the disbelievers, because Allaah has allowed us to interact with them and to marry the Kitaabiyyaat (Jewish and Christian women), so then it is permissible to love them and not make a distinction between us and them.” This person has fallen short in his understanding (of hating the disbelievers).

On the other hand, there are people who go overboard (in hating the disbelievers). They are those who say, “It is not permissible to keep any ties whatsoever with the disbelievers, not for the sake of business, not compensation, and not repaying their kindness, as all of these affairs are displays of allegiance.” So we say to them: These affairs are not displays of allegiance. One must make a distinction between the two, between the position of the extremist and that of the neglectful one. The Religion is a middle course, and there is no extremism and no negligence in it.

So it is obligatory on us to be acquainted with these different types of interactions with the disbelievers, and to know which of them are permissible and which are not, especially in this time when there are so many people who speak about affairs of the Religion without knowledge, or they speak about the Religion based on desires.

So it is obligatory on the student of knowledge to know the legislated rulings about these affairs, as it is an important affair, since it is directly related to the Muslim’s beliefs.

Taken from Duroos fee Nawaaqidh al-Islaam, p.89-91] (p.110-114 of the English translation)

Challenges Facing a New Muslim


Question:

As a nurse in a hospital, praying on time is a great concern for me. No one knows I'm Muslim yet. I do a job that I am on call if needed for the entire facility at every moment (a beeper) when at work, and must respond and prioritize the calls for help from being needed immediately to what needs are not immediate and can be delayed for a while. Sometimes I have a co-worker, sometimes I am alone in this job. I accomplished Salah 5 times a day without fail for a month, but I could not pray on time and sometimes had to "catch-up" later in the day by performing two prayer times together. I was constantly worrying about praying at work and maintaining privacy. The hospital I work in has no Muslim female employees that I know of, but I did see a Muslim Physician leading prayer with a few men in the chapel one day. What do you recommend I should do? Thank you



Answer


Salam ,

Thank you for your question.

We would like to welcome you to the fold of Islam which you have chosen as a way of life. May Allah always help you increase in faith and remain firm on His Straight Path.

Ameen.

I am glad to know that you work as a nurse in a hospital. What a wonderful and noble job you have chosen. Helping patients and caring for their well-being is highly praised in Islam. The nature of your job is very unique because you help alleviate the pain of others and you know firsthand the importance of patients' care. You accompany patients most of the time and this is the main human contact patients receive during their stay in hospital. Try to make patients feel comfortable and help them through the difficult time they go through. Do your best to display sympathy and empathy toward them. It is said that patients get better when they have a nurse who really cares for their health and well-being.

Working in a non-Islamic environment is by no means a reason for not answering the call of duty. Perfect your job as best as you can. Be a role model of the Muslim employee. Perfection is called ihsan in Islam which means that you worship God as if you are seeing Him, and while you seen Him not yet truly He sees you. Perfection or excellence in worship, work, and social relations should be your motto. When a Muslim perfects his/her work, he/she will be rewarded abundantly and showered with mercy and forgiveness from God.

With regard to the prayer issue, I would like to tell you that prayer is the cornerstone of worship in Islam. It stands as the second pillar of Islam. It is a special connection between you and your Creator.

The five daily prayers should be performed at their fixed times to one’s best ability. Do your best to perform each prayer at its fixed time. Surely you are given some time off for breaks during the day. Make sure to perform the prayer in the break if it is possible. Each prayer will not take more than five minutes.

If you are alone in the shift, it is much easier as your colleagues will not be watching you. If you are on shift with a colleague, excuse yourself for a few minutes and do the prayer. If there is no other way to perform the prayer at its fixed time, combine the Zhuhr (noon) prayer with the `Asr (afternoon) prayer at the time of either of them. You can also combine the Maghrib (sunset) prayer with the `Isha’ (evening) prayer at the time of either of them.

But do not make it a habit to do so. Do your utmost to perform the prayers at their fixed time once there is a chance for that.

In case you miss any prayer, please make it up once you remember it. This is the only remedy for missing a prayer.

Try to introduce yourself to the Muslim physician you mentioned and I am sure he will help you with the prayer issue. He might find a place for you where you can maintain your privacy while praying to God. He might also introduce you the Muslim community in your neighborhood.

At this stage, I advise you to read more and more about Islam and practice the rituals as much as you can. As the month of Ramadan is upon us, it will be your first Ramadan as a Muslim. Do your best to observe fasting. It will be a good opportunity to practice self-restraint. Fasting will teach you patience and perseverance. You can write down your Ramadan diary and send it to us to publish if you like, as it might serve as a source of inspiration for others.

You should also focus on developing your personality as a Muslim woman. Be honest, generous, trustworthy, truthful, and hard-working. The change in your personality will inspire others to ask about the reason of this change.

Once you have the strength and courage to tell your family and colleagues about your conversion, do it. Be ready for negative reactions and I advise you to keep calm and prove to them the positive change you have experienced after conversion. When you talk about Islam, focus on the common values between Islam and other belief systems. Do not touch the controversial issues. Do not make Islam a source of conflict with others.

If you feel that your faith is still shaky, you can postpone the declaration of your conversion till you feel that your faith is standing on a solid ground.

Please try to visit any mosque in your neighborhood where you can get to know more Muslim friends who will help you with your problems. If you are unable to find friends, talk to the Imam of the mosque and he will introduce you to Muslim friends or a Muslim family and they will be a source of support for you. Do not isolate yourself from the community, but be an active member and contribute as much as you can to the progress of your community.

If you still have further queries, do not hesitate to write to us again.

onislam.net

Converting to Islam When Parents Are Against It


Question:


Assalamu alykum, I am still a Christian who really wants to become a Muslim. Islam has become the only true religion for me because the Qur’an is the only holy book where things haven’t changed after the prophet’s death. I really want to live as the holy Qur’an tells me and I am even learning how to pray. But I have much problems with the Arabian language. I am also having some problems why I am afraid of doing the shahada(testimony of faith that makes someone a Muslim 'officially). I am still living together with my parents and they have much prejudice against Islam and would be strictly against my conversion. So I have to do the prayers where they cannot see me. Can I officially become a Muslim without that my parents get to know it? And can I get an official certificate without that my parents get to know it? There is still another problem. I can’t do Ramadan in this way. What should I do? Well, when I have finished studying, I am planning to move to an Islamic country to live there. Is that possible? Maybe to Saudi-Arabia or to another? I am looking forward to your answers. May Allah bless you all.


Answer


I am happy to hear that you have decided that Islam is the true religion and that you want to live as a Muslim. Nevertheless, if you are still unsure, and want to visit a Muslim country to explore it further, then by all means do so before telling your parents. Maybe you could even get your parents to go with you.

If Allah wills, you might meet some very good practicing Muslims there, who are kind, generous and friendly. You might still meet some who are not – people differ. One of the best introductions to Islam for westerners is to meet really good practicing Muslims. If you decide not to go abroad, then you can concentrate on being a good example yourself. This is even without announcing your Islam. You can also try inviting good Muslim friends to your house.

Although it is essential to pray, it is possible to do so unobtrusively, in private etc, but more difficult to do so at home.

You ask: 'Can I officially become a Muslim without that my parents get to know it? And can I get an official certificate without that my parents get to know it?’ The answer, to both your questions, is: ‘Yes!’ You can simply do both of these at a mosque and your parents will not be asked to consent, or even be told about. Indeed it is not really necessary to get an official certificate, as Allah knows what is in your heart. You only need a certificate for official things, like, for example, getting a visa for hajj, or getting an Islamic marriage certificate.

As for Ramadan, it could be difficult for you to practice it at home without your parents noticing, especially if you are expected to eat with the rest of the family. If you can normally eat on your own in your room, or go out to eat with other Muslims, it would be easier.

When Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) received the first revelation, at first he did not tell anyone except a selected few, who all supported him. Only later did he receive a revelation to go public. It is admittedly a very difficult thing to tell people, especially parents, that you have chosen Islam. In fact, they do often react very negatively because of their preconceptions, fears etc. If you feel your faith is still too shaky to attempt this, then maybe you could leave the announcement until you feel strong enough.

Nonetheless, it is very important to tell them, especially if you are living with them. Parents are permanent fixtures in your life and in your own consciousness. One day they will have to know. It is better to share it with them yourself early on and not leave them to find out by accident. It would then shock them even more! If you can tell them in a good way - respectfully, kindly and without anger or seeming to reject them - that should help a lot.

Maybe you could lead up to it gradually, by pointing out some things about Islam that you think they might agree with. Get them to explore the issue with you, in a non-confrontational way. This could also help you clarify your own views. Remember how you yourself came towards Islam gradually. See if you can lead them gradually towards acceptance, if not of Islam, then at least of your own sincere commitment to it.

Only Allah can open people's hearts to Islam. Even Prophet Muhammad himself (peace be upon him) could not make some of his own uncles believe, like Abu Talib, who supported and protected him faithfully.

I have heard of some parents who do accept their children's conversions gracefully, and even some who accept Islam for themselves. Still, these seem to be the exception rather than the rule. The Qur'an tells Muslims to continue to be kind to parents, but to remain firm in their faith:
"We have enjoined on man kindness to parents: but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me (in worship) anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not. Ye have (all) to return to me, and I will tell you (the truth) of all that ye did." (Surah 29 Verse 8)

With all best wishes,

Wasalaam