8- Perfection lies in the differences:



Dear brothers, I want to draw your attention to an important fact. Having stronger emotions and weaker psychological and mental ability is considered perfection for women, and the opposite is also true for men.
Think of the difference between cars and trucks in respect of distributing functional areas. The car has more space for passengers while the truck has more space for goods. The area of each is perfect for the purpose it is made for.
Hence, when we say “women lack something” we don’t accuse her of imperfection. Rather, it is perfection itself. Having stronger emotions, passion, caring, and less interest in general issues, less courage, and weaker will is perfection for women. It is that difference that makes women attractive and satisfying for men.


9- Differences serve marital life:


Dear brothers, It is a long issue, but highlighting a few aspects of it is better than leaving it altogether. It is true that men and women are equal in responsibility and honor, but we should not neglect the difference between men and women. This is very important as it confirms the sacred mission that women are assigned to. It is the difference that attracts man to woman to find ease, it is the difference that attunes man to woman, and it is the difference that makes each of them completes the other.
The closest things to man’s life are his job and his wife. You either have a good or a bad choice, but it is never too late to have a good wife. If you reform yourself and ask Allah to guide your wife, He will- most probably- answer you and make her a comfort for you. Moreover, Allah says that if man chooses a good wife, guides her to Allah’s path, and orders her to obey Allah and His messenger, Allah will reward him in the worldly life before the hereafter, but what is the reward? His wife and kids will be the comfort of his eyes, Allah says:
(And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqun” (pious))
[Al Furqan, 74]
Dear brothers, all these words, texts, and facts are quoted from Allah’s method. Allah says:
(And none can inform you (O Muhammad) like Him Who is the All-Knower (of each and everything).)
[Fatir, verse 14]
Who has the best knowledge of marital life? Who is the
One who molded, organized, and gave every gender his/her physical, mental psychological, and social characters? Who made each gender complete the other? The answer to all these questions is: Allah.
When humanity is lost, when it goes astray, and looks for the way, they must get back to Allah’s book, to the best method, to the right path, to the Creator’s instructions, to the knowledge of the All-knower.
The particular characteristics of woman in her heart, sensation system, brain, skeleton, height, or weight, is the very reason that makes her loved to man who reposes to her. I would like to mention three ayat here:
(And among His Ayat (proofs, evidences, lessons, signs, etc.) is the creation of the heavens and the earth, and whatever moving (living) creatures He has dispersed in them both)
[As-Shura, 29]
(And from among His Signs are the night and the day, and the sun and the moon)
[Fussilat, 37]
(And among His Signs is the sleep that you take by night and by day, and your seeking of His Bounty.)
[Al Rum, 23]
Allah the Almighty says also:
(And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.)
[Al Rum, 21]
This affection and mercy between husband and wife are created by Allah, and it is the foundation of marital relation, losing them would result in dangerous problems.
Dear brothers, as long as man is alive and has the chance he should reform himself and the closest people to him (his wife) and should ward off hellfire from his children by rearing them, offering them advice, guiding them, and encouraging them to seek knowledge.
I am pretty sure that any problem on earth, be it small or big, individual or massive, is a result of deviation from Allah’s method, which is a result of ignorance.
Islamic orders in treating women:
Dear brothers, the Prophet PBUH said:
The best of you is the best for his family and I am the best for my family
[Tirmizi, Ibn Majah, and Darami]
And he also said:
Only an honorable man treats women with honor and integrity. And only a mean man humiliates women.
[Ibn Asaker, Al Jame’e Al Sagheer]
And the Prophet PBUH addressed women by saying to one of them:
O, woman, be sure you and all women that being a good wife to your husband equals Jihad (fighting) in the cause of Allah
[Baihaqee, through Asmaa Bint Yazeed Al Ansaryah]
The Prophet PBUH was used to be bright-faced and smiling when entering his house, and He described women by saying:
They are the precious and the source of pleasure
Ignorance is the worst enemy of the truth:
This is the true religion that the Prophet PBUH came with. We should take Islam from its resources not from the lives of Muslims which might not be in harmony with Allah’s path, nor from the tributaries which came from western cultures to distort Islam. Allah the Almighty says:
(This day, I have perfected your religion for you, completed My Favor upon you, and have chosen for you Islam as your religion.)
[Al Maida, 3]
Every issue we need, were completely addressed by Islam, and detailed in its method, and in the Quran. Our duty now is to learn and seek knowledge.
It is naivety, and narrow mindedness to accuse something without knowing it and trying to comprehend it, following the right path to acquaint it, and taking it from its resources.
If you want to know Islam, you have the Quran and the Sunna of the Prophet PBUH, and you have the biography of his companions who followed him with full reception, comprehension, and righteousness. Allah the Almighty says:
(Say (O Muhammad): “This is my way; I invite unto Allah (i.e. to the Oneness of Allah – Islamic Monotheism) with sure knowledge, I and whosoever follows me (also must invite others to Allah i.e to the Oneness of Allah – Islamic Monotheism) with sure knowledge. And Glorified and Exalted be Allah (above all that they associate as partners with Him). And I am not of the Mushrikun (polytheists, pagans, idolaters and disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah; those who worship others along with Allah or set up rivals or partners to Allah).”.)
[Yusuf, 108]
One should never judge Islam before becoming familiar and acquainted with it. Seeking knowledge is an individual duty on every Muslim and is your way to sublime. If you want worldly life, you need to seek knowledge, if you want the hereafter, you need to seek knowledge, and if you need both, you need to seek knowledge.
There are two kinds of knowledge, there is the knowledge that entertains you, and the knowledge that benefits to you. Knowledge of Allah’s orders and prohibition is an entertaining a beneficial knowledge, and it grants happiness in the worldly life and the hereafter alike.
Most kinds of science stop with death, whereas religious knowledge lasts even after death forever and ever, as it is the real knowledge. The prudent is he who knows Allah, knows the reason behind his own existence, and knows the purpose of his existence.
The Prophet PBUH and his companions passed by an insane man, so He asked them (knowing the answer): “Who is this?” They replied: He is an insane person. He answered: “This man is afflicted, but the insane is he who disobeys Allah”
In another incident, the Prophet PBUH entered the mosque and ran into a genealogist, so he asked (knowing the answer), “Who is he?” They replied: he is a genealogist, and he asked again: “What is the genealogist?” They answered: he is the one who knows people’s ancestors, so the Prophet PBUH commented: “That is a kind of knowledge that is not beneficial to the one who learns it, and is not harmful to those who are ignorant of it”.
Hence, the Prophet PBUH used to supplicate by saying:
O Allah, I seek refuge with you from useless knowledge, a heart that is not humble to you, an eye that does not cry, and a soul that does not get satisfied, and I seek refuge with you from those four
Dear brothers, seeking knowledge confirms the humanity of man.
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds

Translation :Noora Al Sharabi
Auditing :Maha Sulieman