Sixth: Invoking guidance, not harm for the children

It is narrated on the authority of Jaabir, may Allaah be pleased with him, that he quoted the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, as saying: “Do not supplicate against yourselves, your children, your servants, or your property, lest you should supplicate at a time when supplications are answered.”




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Finally, parents should attach their children’s hearts to Allaah The Almighty so that the children would seek to please Him and attain His reward. Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): {So, whoever does righteous deeds while he is a believer -- no denial will there be for his effort, and indeed We, of it, are recorders.} [Quran 21:94] Mothers can establish this attachment by being role models for their children, saying responsible words; applying wise monitoring, offering fair guidance, and preparing an environment that helps them to act righteously.

When children grow into youths who believe in Allaah The Almighty they will be conscious of Him; hence, they will turn to Allaah The Almighty in repentance if they commit any act that might displease Him. They will follow a righteous course of living and will abstain from committing misdeeds. This will help them purify their souls and be elevated to the status of guided people by means of adhering to a solid creed, submissive worship of Allaah The Almighty, as well as enjoying a stable mentality, open mindedness, and strong bodies.

In this way, children will live by Islam and for Islam, and they will consider easy what is difficult, and find sweet what is bitter. They will also be released from elements that drag them to the mundane world and will aspire for the reward that Allaah The Almighty has prepared for His servants who are steadfast on his Sharee‘ah. Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): {Indeed, those who have said, “Our Lord is Allaah” and then remained on a right course -- the angels will descend upon them, [saying], “Do not fear and do not grieve but receive good tidings of Paradise, which you were promised.} [Quran 41:30]

A fellow Muslim had a daughter who was quiet, polite, and modest. After she moved to a preparatory school, she changed drastically. Her father noticed that she had dyed a lock of her hair green. Astonished at what she had done, her father asked mother her why she did that, and she retorted that her teacher dyed her own hair like that to match the color of her dress.

The crisis is that our enemies recognize the importance of education, so they hasten to apply it, but on secular grounds. They also recognize the influence that teachers can have on students, so they corrupt them. By doing so, they have corrupted generations of Muslims since the beginning of this century. Unfortunately, secularists and atheists have preceded those who hold the sound creed in educating women. Consequently, secular and atheist women have had the chance to cause mischief on earth and spread corruption, since they have had the chance to educate Muslim children. They have been raising children to follow misleading principles. The feminist societies that they formed have played a key role in distracting young Muslim women from the way of guidance and righteousness.

There must be a positive Islamic alternative to fortify young Muslim women with righteous upbringing, so that we would not merely be criticizing the younger generations and blaming them for failing to follow the true teachings of Islam. To that end, we have to provide our daughters with useful knowledge, and adopt the methods of earnest Da‘wah (Islamic propagation) among Muslim women. Also, schools that comply with the standards of Sharee‘ah should be established and regular sessions of knowledge should be held in mosques and in homes.


(Islamweb)